Ask Gigi

Welcome to Ask Gigi, a column where psychosexual therapist, Gigi
Engle, answers your most intimate questions and explores a range of
sexual health topics. .

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How to ask for the pleasure you want when the ‘giving’ starts to feel one-sided

Feeling generous in bed can be deeply pleasurable, but when giving starts to feel one-sided, resentment often follows. Many people struggle to ask for more because they fear awkwardness, rejection, or seeming needy. In this piece, we explore why reciprocity matters, how to talk about wanting to feel desired, and why asking for your own pleasure is not selfish but an essential part of intimacy.

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The rise of the ‘Comet Partner’ in CNM

Comet partners are having a viral moment, but this relationship style is anything but new. Rooted in consensual non-monogamy, comet relationships revolve around deep, meaningful connections that ebb and flow over time. No daily grind, no escalator milestones, just intentional reunions charged with intimacy and anticipation. So how do they work, can they be serious, and who are they right for? Here’s everything you need to know about love that burns bright and moves on its own orbit.

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Are you ‘dry begging’ with your partner?

Ever find yourself dropping hints, sighing, or over-explaining, hoping someone magically understands your needs? That’s called dry begging and it’s exhausting. Rooted in socialization and fear of rejection, it keeps us anxious, resentful, and stuck in unhealthy patterns. The solution? Direct, clear communication. By naming what you want, practicing assertiveness, and embracing vulnerability, you reclaim your voice and strengthen your relationships. Stop hoping people read your mind and learn to ask with clarity, confidence, and self-respect.

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