Learning how to use a vibrator isn’t about turning up the intensity, it’s about understanding your body. In this expert-led guide, sex educator Gigi Engle shares eight pleasure-first vibrator tips, from starting slower than you think to using lube, switching vibration patterns, and reducing orgasm pressure. Whether you’re new to vibrators or looking to improve sensation, these tips help make solo pleasure feel more connected, comfortable, and genuinely satisfying.

The Coital Alignment Technique (CAT) is a simple upgrade to the missionary position that increases clitoral stimulation and can make orgasms easier to achieve. Instead of traditional thrusting, CAT uses slow, intentional rocking to keep consistent pressure on the clitoris. As a sex therapist, I recommend CAT for couples who want better sex, deeper intimacy, and more reliable pleasure. It’s an anatomy-focused technique that helps partners feel more connected while boosting orgasm potential.