Ask Gigi

Welcome to Ask Gigi, a column where psychosexual therapist, Gigi
Engle, answers your most intimate questions and explores a range of
sexual health topics. .

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Your guide to ‘Dom Burnout’ in BDSM dynamics

Dom burnout is a common but overlooked experience for many dominants in BDSM and D/s dynamics. When the emotional, psychological, and cognitive demands of dominance start outweighing the pleasure of the role, exhaustion, detachment, and overwhelm can set in. Let’s get into what dom burnout is, why it happens, the psychological factors behind it, and how dominants can recover and reconnect with their power in a healthy, sustainable way.

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Understanding ownership kinks and why we might have them

Exploring an ownership kink doesn’t mean giving up your independence—it’s a way to understand your desires on a deeper psychological level. Let’s break down why power-exchange dynamics feel so magnetic, especially for people who are strong, self-reliant, and craving a place to let go. Learn how trust, negotiation, and emotional safety turn ownership kink into a powerful tool for intimacy and self-discovery.

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Having a “Home-Wrecker” kink is a thing. Here’s how to explore it safely and ethically

A clear, nonjudgmental overview of the home-wrecker kink, including why taboo fantasies can feel so powerful, the psychological factors behind them, and practical guidance for exploring this desire safely and ethically. Learn how to distinguish fantasy from real-world behavior, engage in healthy communication, and approach kink exploration with awareness and consent.

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