Ask Gigi

Welcome to Ask Gigi, a column where psychosexual therapist, Gigi
Engle, answers your most intimate questions and explores a range of
sexual health topics. .

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The rise of ‘Soft Kink’ and why not everything needs to be extreme

Soft kink is redefining what it means to explore desire—less about intensity, more about intention. It lives in the quiet power of anticipation, subtle control, and emotional presence. This is your invitation to slow down, tune in, and discover why softer doesn’t mean less—it often means deeper, more connected, and far more satisfying.

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What is a Fart Fetish?

Sexuality is deeply psychological, and even the kinks that seem unusual on the surface often revolve around vulnerability, trust, and meaning rather than the act itself. A fart fetish, like many taboo-based interests, can link to themes of exposure, power dynamics, sensory wiring, or bonding through radical acceptance of the human body. When explored with clear consent, communication, and emotional care, it becomes less about shock value and more about intimacy, symbolism, and how our brains learn to connect arousal with emotional intensity.

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Your guide to ‘Dom Burnout’ in BDSM dynamics

Dom burnout is a common but overlooked experience for many dominants in BDSM and D/s dynamics. When the emotional, psychological, and cognitive demands of dominance start outweighing the pleasure of the role, exhaustion, detachment, and overwhelm can set in. Let’s get into what dom burnout is, why it happens, the psychological factors behind it, and how dominants can recover and reconnect with their power in a healthy, sustainable way.

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Understanding ownership kinks and why we might have them

Exploring an ownership kink doesn’t mean giving up your independence—it’s a way to understand your desires on a deeper psychological level. Let’s break down why power-exchange dynamics feel so magnetic, especially for people who are strong, self-reliant, and craving a place to let go. Learn how trust, negotiation, and emotional safety turn ownership kink into a powerful tool for intimacy and self-discovery.

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