Q&A: Sex educator, Gigi Engle, on the best days, times and places to have sex


Certified sex educator, Gigi Engle, teamed up with Vivastreet to answer your questions best days, times and places to have sex — from the benefits of having sex at certain points in the week, to creative ways to change up your routine.


What are the benefits of having sex at the start of the week?

There are countless benefits to having sex at the top of the week. It’s a really great way to begin your week on a positive, uplifting note. Sex is a way for couples (and partners, in general) to connect and build intimacy. It fortifies the bond between partners and sends the message that you’re in this thing called life together – you’re a team – and you value each other as partners and lovers.

We often get so bogged down with our to-do lists, our kids, chores, and work – that we forget that our intimate connection with our partners needs care and nurturing. Our sexual relationships are a bit like houseplants – they need lots of TLC in order to survive and thrive. I think when we prioritise sex as something that is important to kick off our busy weeks. When we view it as so important that we pop it down as one of the first things we do – we help to solidify the connection and keep our relationship tended to and healthy.

Now, I’m not suggesting that having sex at the top of the week is the “only way” or “right way” to go about sex. Rather, it’s about making it a priority. So, whether you’re having sex on Sunday, Monday, Tuesday – or whenever – it’s about ensuring it is important to you and your partner(s). 

In this mindset, sex isn’t going to be shoved aside to make room for “more important” things because it is viewed as something essential to your life and overall happiness. We’re making the time for it, no matter what. 

And there’s more to it, too. Orgasms are just generally so good for our mental health. They help reduce anxiety, build our mind-body connection, and improve sleep quality. We live busy and hectic lives. 

 Orgasms (whether partnered or solo) should be recognised as falling under the self-care umbrella. Get it on the calendar and make it a part of the routine in order to reap the benefits. 


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